The moments that make “us”

Were brought up to believe that love’s greatest moments are filled with rose petals, horse-drawn carriages, candlelit dinners and chocolate covered strawberries. It’s easy to make your partner happy through purchases and plans. There is an industry build around it fueled by media and long standing cultural stereotypes.

In reality, the moments that make “us” are moments of weakness. The times when your angry, upset and just want to scream, but you choose to put your pride aside, listen and calmly state your point of you. Those are the times you show weakness. When you respond kindly, regardless of how big or small the problem. When you respond with humility when maybe…you/they are being crazy…those are the moments when you show weakness.

These moments of weakness are the building blocks of “us”. They are the times when you show how much you love your partner because you put them before your history, issues, destructive words and behavior patterns. To act like a servant, doing things that are hard but doing them because we put each other first.

There is no industry profiting on you understanding your partners uniqueness. Understanding their heart, history and communication style. I don’t feel media or cultural stereotypes pressuring me self-sacrifice and listen. But there is Jesus… the epitome of a self-sacrificing loving nurturer. I know that in difficult times, the more we strive to be like him, those moments become the ones that make “us”.